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The Useful Life No. 15 — Conversations and (Un)Certainty


The Useful Life

by Jordan Shirkman

No. 15

Conversations and (Un)Certainty

Hey there,

This week we're discussing conversations and peace in the midst of uncertainty. Two things that dramatically impact our everyday lives.

Looking Back

I'm working my way through The Coach Model for Christian Leaders by Keith E. Webb. This line in the preface struck me:

Conversations form the foundation of everything we do. Your ability to get things done, make changes, or help other people grow depends on the quality of your conversations. If you change your conversations, you’ll change your results.

Conversations form the foundation of our lives—with spouses, kids, friends, coworkers—and we can all get better at them.

The biggest thing that will change them for the better?

Asking better questions and listening more attentively.

What would it look like for you to focus on those two things in your conversations this week?

Looking Up

I've been thinking about how to find peace in uncertainty a lot lately. I try to let the predictability of my life bring me peace, and that simply doesn't work.

I have to keep re-learning that peace doesn't come from:

  • how much money I have in the bank
  • my ability to control a situation
  • how predictable my life is
  • if things are all going well
  • how organized I am
  • my circumstances

Those things might bring temporary calm. But they can't give lasting peace because they're all subject to change. And anything that can change can't provide predictable peace.

Here's what I've found: Peace isn't a feeling. It's a person and his name is Jesus.

👉 Read the full post here: Peace in Uncertainty

Looking Forward

Conversations with others and conversations with God are what will determine the quality of our lives.

So it's worth asking ourselves:

  • What does it look like to listen well today (to others and to God)?
  • What questions do you need to ask? (Especially the ones you're afraid of asking)
  • Who do you need to initiate a conversation with?

Looking For a Laugh

DJs, moms, pastors and bank robbers have more in common than any of us realized. (I'm an absolute sucker for an overly complex Venn diagram.)

Wrapping Up

Hit reply—what stood out to you this week?

Here’s to pursuing the useful life together—with more peace in uncertainty and better conversations,

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